Friday Fuel! The Power of Resilience

Happy Friday!

“You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are—and you just might become the very best version of yourself.” – S. Sandberg

Today I am cheating, I am updating and re-sharing an old post that I think is incredibly valuable and important. I wrote this almost a year ago and this week I felt like I need to post it again. The power of resilience is a very real thing – our ability to overcome, bounce back and move forward can shape our lives in more ways than one.

Life is a roller coaster ride of events, emotions and experiences. Every experience we go through – both good and bad – shapes our attitude and steers our actions. Sheryl Sandberg’s message was powerfully true during her 2016 UC Berkley Commencement speech when she told graduates that when tragedy or adversity strikes we all have the ability to get through absolutely ANYTHING.

Sh*t happens. It’s part of life. Overcoming that sh*t and becoming a better person because of it is the only option to me.

When writing on this topic almost a year ago, it became glaringly obvious to me that resilience is a skill, not a trait. It evolves over time with experience and the development of an intentional attitude towards adversity. One of the most impactful things I read was in this New Yorker article: “Frame adversity as a challenge, and you become more flexible and able to deal with it, move on, learn from it, and grow. Focus on it, frame it as a threat, and a potentially traumatic event becomes an enduring problem; you become more inflexible, and more likely to be negatively affected.”

It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy – our attitude and actions in response to a stressful event can shift the trajectory of our life. So, find the positive even during times of struggle and know that you are becoming a better version of you during your toughest times.

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” – C. Jung

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong
instagram: @ciaturner  and @friday_fuel

Friday Fuel! Excuses for Sexism

Happy Friday!

It’s another great day to be ALIVE!

I am not one to get political or religious – not my thing – but an article was shared with me this week that shed some light on how both of these topics are setting women back – and truthfully – it evoked a reaction out of me that writing about helped me to process. So bare with me for today’s Friday Fuel post and hear me out because regardless of your political or religious beliefs this impacts you as a woman.

In this Time Magazine article; the authors comment on how Mike Pence’s outspoken beliefs on marriage hold women back and perpetuates this subtle sexism still present in so many facets of our society. Mike Pence, among other Christians, has been incredibly vocal about his personal “marriage rule” that he will not dine with a woman without his wife present, a form of what evangelicals call the “Billy Graham rule.” Graham, a well-known evangelical minister, famously “refused to meet with a woman alone other than his wife — not even in an elevator — in order to ‘flee youthful lusts’ and avoid ‘appearances of compromise or suspicion.’

Pause for a moment. Let that sink in…

This bullsh*t “rule” is sexism in every sense. I am really struggling to comprehend this perspective…it minimizes women to an object of sexuality and implies that both men and women can’t possible have a platonic relationship; purely grounded in friendship or professionalism. This “rule” continues to give men power and exclude women from opportunities for leadership.

“Tradition”, “religion”, “politics” and “culture” are often used as a scapegoat for sexism. I find this “rule” to be a perfect example of that. As women, I think we need to acknowledge this and stop letting people use these as an excuse for how they treat us – in the workplace, in the home, any damn place; frankly. Men and women should be equals in their personal and professional life; it’s time to move past this notion that men are at the top of the hierarchy and a woman’s role is to be submissive to the patriarchy.

My life would certainly be a lot different today if none of my MALE teachers, doctors, coaches, pastors, friends and colleagues refused to meet with me alone…just writing that out seems pretty ridiculous to comprehend.

Can we please MOVE FORWARD and acknowledge the intelligence, leadership, kindness, complexity and capabilities of EVERY human; regardless of gender. Just a thought…

I’ll stop my rant there and ask that you take five minutes to read the article and see what you think for yourself. For me; it struck a nerve with some of my frustrations with the religious beliefs I was raised on and the current political leadership that is setting women (and other minority groups) back 30+-years. With that said, this article did not discourage me – it empowered me.

This article reinforced my personal beliefs that women must advocate for themselves within their own personal environment. Mike Pence, Bill Graham or any other misogynist isn’t going to impact how I pursue opportunities or build relationships with my male friends and colleagues.

**Eye roll and walk on.

Each of us are in control of our circumstances and can take action in our personal life to overcome gender bias and advocate for ourselves, and other women.  We should acknowledge the ways in which our society and certain people perpetuate gender stereotypes and sexism but we should never give them power.

Choose to be positive. Choose to advocate for yourself. Choose to break through the glass ceiling. Choose to speak up. Choose to lean in. Choose progress.

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new.” – Socrates

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Feel Good Fuel

Happy Friday!

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You did it! You made it to FRIDAY! You’ve got one more day to hustle and grind through and then it’s the weekend! Set your self up for success for next week but using your Friday to get things done and get your priorities set for the upcoming week. Don’t waste the day!

Today’s Friday Fuel is another edition of “Feel Good Fuel”. I am sending loads of good vibes and positivity your way with a few of my favorite quotes, Chumlee glamour shots and some of my favorite latest reads.  I hope this ignites your energy and fuels your day! Make the most of every moment and don’t let this day go to waste!

Check out even more good vibes on FullSizeRender 5.jpgtoday’s FridayFuel.org post and follow Friday Fuel on Instagram! @Friday_Fuel

Check out these good reads and get motivated to take on the day!

Looking for a new book to start reading? Here’s a couple I highly recommend!

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Baby Chumlee! Melting my heart since September 2012

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Part 3: The Cure to Anger & Fear

Happy Friday!

For the last two weeks I’ve talked about two emotions that can detract and destroy us; anger and fear. I’ve offered up my own experiences and personal ways to move through and past anger and fear. On further reflecting on this I’ve realized that their is one way to overcome both of these emotions (along with many more).

The magic pill?!? Gratitude.

Gratitude is the answer, to so many issues and emotions we go through in our day and lifetime. When faced with a challenge, obstacle, shitty day or any type of negative situation we quickly forget all that is good in our life and the things we are fortunate to have. Being negative is easy.

It’s easy to let things make us angry and fearful and it’s easier to embrace those emotions than do the work to overcome them – because, yes, it does take personal effort and work to overcome them!

The cure all – gratitude.

As I mentioned the last two posts, anger and fear are personal to you and your reaction to a situation. A simple way to overcome that is through gratitude and always appreciating what you have in your life even under the worst of situations. However, gratitude isn’t something we should only deploy when we are angry or fearful. The practice of gratitude every single day; is what will ultimately allow you to manage your emotions (especially the negative ones).

I am not nearly thankful enough for all that I have in my life. I quickly forget how fortunate I am and that I am beyond blessed with a great family, friends, home, job and SO much more! Over time, our life and everything in it, becomes so normal to us that all we have is almost invisible. Only when something bad happens or we lose one of those great things do we actually realize how fortunate we were.

Acknowledging things we should be grateful everyday is not hard but it’s easy to neglect and forget – I’ve been working on this and trying to make gratitude a theme in my life.  I’ve read a lot of different strategies and advice for practicing gratitude and living a more grateful life – here is two things I have been trying to doing personally over the last few weeks:

  1. Every morning when I meditate I focus on three things I am grateful for and I actually think about losing them and how that would impact me. For example; I am incredibly grateful for my husband and all the support he gives me. He does so much and I neglect to show appreciation for him way too often. I think about him not being in my life; losing him or something happening to him. As morbid as it sounds the kind of awakening I need to put things in perspective.
  2. Another way I like to look at it; it could be worse! Every time something bad happens I always thing of how it could have been worse; I don’t know if that’s right or wrong but it certainly helps put things in perspective for me and helps me move on.

Here are a couple good reads on practicing gratitude:

  1. Three Ways to Express Gratitude and Lead a More Success Life
  2. Be Grateful More Often

Finally, I will leave you with this; I learned the statistic the other day on the odds of someone being born a human being. It is one out of a 400 trillion!!! The siIMG_4724.JPGmple fact that you are alive is insane and a complete and total blessing! You won the lottery by just being born. Learning that was a wake-up call for me and an instant slap in the face as to why I should be grateful every single day when I wake-up.

THANK YOU for reading Friday Fuel, sharing it with others! I am so appreciative of this community and everyone who has sent me good vibes, good reads and advice!

Embrace the day!

Christina
instagram: @Friday_Fuel (NEW!) and @ciaturner
twitter: @cturner_strong

Friday Fuel! An Intro to Fear’s Sister…

Happy Friday!

It’s a great day to be alive! Don’t waste it!

Last week I wrote to you all about fear and the debilitating impact it can have on us personally; our growth, our happiness, our relationships and life are far less fulfilling when we let fear drive our decisions and actions. Consider this week’s post and email; part two to my anti-fear rant.

I’d like to introduce you to fears sister…her name is Anger. She is equally treacherous and can bring you down in seconds. Fear and anger go hand-in-hand and are more connected than people think.

Anger, like fear, is an emotion and reaction that we impose on ourselves and usually stems from our own issues, insecurities and lack of control. Sound familiar? Like I said, It’s a lot like fear!

Think about the last time you were genuinely angry…I mean raging mad and filled with anger. What were you mad about? Did something happen to you? Did someone do something to you? I’m not talking about the little annoyances in your life like when your kids leave their crap all over the house, someone cuts you off and takes your parking spot or you spill your freshly brewed cup of coffee – a travesty, I know, but not something to get genuinely angry about. I’m talking about the events that take you to a dark place and make you feel like a two ton elephant is sitting on your chest or like you are going to punch through a brick wall. What got you to that angry place?

The last time I was genuinely mad was a few weeks ago when someone made some pretty disrespectful comments about women to me. In that moment, I really just wanted to punch the guy in the face and it took every ounce of my being to be patient and respond with a smile. I responded with brief, to the point answers and gave every possible verbal and non-verbal cue that I wanted to have nothing to do with this person and/or the conversation. Once I had some time to chill out, I realized that my anger got the best of me. Now some people might say “don’t waste your f*ckin’ time on people and situations like this” but I have to disagree. I think I missed out on an opportunity to have a productive conversation with this person and possibly enlighten him as to what he was saying and it’s impact. Instead, I shut down.

My anger stemmed from my own insecurities and lack of control – I felt attacked because I identify as a women and took his comments personally. I was getting myself worked up over a conversation with an individual I will probably never see again in my lifetime. I was fuming and I carried that with me for a couple days. I replayed the conversation in my head and wished I said something more, something better and stuck it to him. Again, unproductive. I let my anger eat away at me and destroy my inner peace.

More often than not, our anger is the result of an interaction with someone else. It’s not too common that we  get angry when we are sitting in a room by our selves (well, not most of us anyways). Anger is driven by our interactions with others and our personal reaction to the situation. That means you are in control of how you respond and how it effects you. Like fear, anger is BULLSHIT and all in your mind.

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The bottom line is this; anger is personal to you and an emotional reaction – how you choose to respond is what can make or break you. You can let it stew and dwell on the shitty emotions you’re experiencing or you can move on. That may mean just letting it roll off your shoulder and not wasting time and energy on it or it could mean taking action to address and resolve the anger you feel. Either way, the goal is to move forward and not carry this with you.

Just like managing your fear; when dealing with anger you need to know what ignites your anger and what can you do to move past it. Similar to last week; I am sharing three quick actions steps you can take to address anger and move the f*ck on as soon as possible!

  1. Ask yourself this question: “why am I so angry right now?” Write it out and dive into your personal reaction a little…
  2. Breathe. As cheesy as it sounds, breathing does help – I’m talking on a physiological level -science proves it! I never would have been one to say this but since meditating regularly, I am definitely bought into breathing techniques and mindfulness. Give it a try and when you feel that anger coming on; take 10 slow, deep breathes.
  3. Address whatever made you anger. Did a colleague say something to offend you? Did someone you love lie to you? Whatever the situation – don’t let it stew and take over your mind and body. If there is someone you need to address it with – go talk to them and tell that what made you angry. Speak from a personal place (use “I” statements rather than “you”). Try to turn the situation into a learning opportunity and have a productive conversation rather than shutting down and walking away. This is easier said then done but the first two steps will help prime you to approach the person that set you off.

It’s hard in the moment to do these three steps effectively so don’t be afraid to walk away and take a moment to breathe and think.

Ultimately, you are in control of your emotion and your attitude whether its anger or fear, YOU are in the drivers seat and directing your attitude, energy and actions. You should spend as little time as possible being angry and/or fearful. These are two emotions that hold us back and destroy our inner peace. Figure out what incites your angry and fear and learn how to overcome it and move forward.

If this post didn’t make you less angry, maybe this pic of Chumlee will! He never gets angry…

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong
instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Fear is Bullsh*t

Happy Friday!

Happy International Women’s Month! I think it’s only one day but I’m gonna go ahead and stretch this day over the entire month of March – because, why not? Women are AWESOME – let’s celebrate that as long as possible! Woop Woop!

Have you every wanted to start your own business? Quit your job and move on? Start a new project? Talk to someone you admire?

But you didn’t. You didn’t go for it or do anything. You just continue to dream about it…

Are you wondering whats holding you back? I’ve got a pretty good guess as to what that is….FEAR. Fear is f*cker that paralyzes us and holds us back from pursuing our goals. Fear of failure, fear of looking bad, fear of risk, fear of not being good enough, fear of rejection…the list goes on.

Fear is the one thing that makes dreams impossible to achieve – Paulo Coehlo

When we truly want to do something and don’t – deep down it’s fear that is holding us back. We don’t realize it because we try to rationalize all the reasons why we shouldn’t do what it is we want. We give ourselves concrete reasons as to why we shouldn’t pursue that new job, start our own business, talk to someone, etc. What those reasons actually represent is our deep seeded fears and insecurities. Our mind and body is literally on the defense to not let us experience any pain or discomfort. Fear comes with a lot of physiological and psychological responses that trigger our body to get back to a “safe place” and avoid the anxiety.

Fear is not something that we are born with – we learn fear and develop our fears through lived experiences. Don’t you remember as a kid jumping out of that tree or rollerblading down a steep hill with no fear! Or when we were young and did and said what we wanted – we had no filters – we just said what was on our mind. Those were the good old days! Today, we fear it all – most of all, those things that could open us up to rejection and the negative opinions of others.

It’s bullsh*t…

For me; my fears are just that – I fear not being good enough and fear uncertainty. It’s held me back in many instances but now that I know where my fear is coming from, I can sit with it and acknowledge that the thoughts coming into my head are my bullsh*t fears trying to hold me back.

What drives your fear?

The best piece of advice I’ve heard lately about overcoming fear was to take action. DO – don’t over think. Taking action against our fears is the only way to overcome them. I’ve learned that there are three actions we can take to overcome our fears and move forward with our dreams and goals:

  1. Call out your fears. When you come up with an idea or goal you want to pursue and you start to have those negative thoughts and excuses creep into your head – call them out. Write them down and acknowledge them. Figure out what is driving your fear and then give it the middle finger and move on. 🙂
  2. DO something – take action. GO, GO, GO! Don’t sit on it and wait, find something right away you can do to move one step closer to your goal. Think of it this way; you’re never going to be 100% ready so just get going.That first step is the most important. See a job you want to apply for – start writing the cover letter. Want to ask for a raise? Start planning out your negotiation points. Be a DO-ER not a thinker.
  3. Tell someone. Put it out into the universe. Tell someone you love and trust what you want and the fears you are trying to overcome. By telling someone; you are, in a small way, taking a step in moving forward on your goal or overcoming your fear.

If we don’t acknowledge what drives our fear and take action against them – then our fears will steer the direction of our life. That alone scares me enough to do something.

Fear is bullsh*t – live the life you truly dream of.

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong
instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! The Career Climb

Happy Friday!

It’s FRI-YAY! I hope you have a kick-ass day and make the most of it.

I was at an awesome Women in Sports event last weekend and one of the panelist, a producer for ESPN, reminded the group that our career path is not “climbing a ladder” it’s more like “climbing a juggle gym.” We all know the professional climb is far from linear. I myself have tried to map out the play-by-play and kept everything in neat, sequential boxes that I can check off as I move forward. Ha! WRONG. It doesn’t work like that…at least not in most instances.

Our life and careers will take us on a wild ride that rarely puts us in the exact place at the exact time that we expected. Life is unpredictable and we shouldn’t get stuck on this preconceived notion of a one track advancement or linear growth in our careers – a valuable lesson I have learned myself. Say ‘yes’ often and be open to the people and opportunities that come your way. You never know where they may lead you! And sometimes that could mean staying right where you are and moving around within that organization.

My own journey has been one of these juggle gym experiences – I pursued a graduate degree that only made me realize what I didn’t want to be doing. Oops. Rather than pigeon holing myself into a career I didn’t truly enjoy, I have been navigating my way back into college athletics administration and it has been a far from traditional path. You may go from A to D back to B and then end up at S. Who knows! A minor detour could lead you to major opportunities. The most important thing is that you are happy and experiencing growth, value and fulfillment along each step of the journey.

Fear about doubt can cause us to second guess ourselves when there is an opportunity that comes our way – especially when that opportunity does not follow the “typical” career path for your given profession. How do we know whats the right move and when to say yes? It can be challenging to make these decisions and take that leap of faith – here are three questions I’ve asked myself when considering whether to go career “off-roading” and pursue a new or different opportunity.

  1. Does this job/position bring NEW challenges and opportunities that excite me? Does thinking about the job and all that it will entail get your blood pumping and your heart racing? It is something that will truly help you grow – through new challenges/assignments, new people and/or a new place? Our gut reaction says a lot about whether something is right or wrong for us. Sit with your thoughts and really explore your reaction to the opportunity and listen to the things that come across your mind. Do this before asking other people for their advice!
  2. Will this work be meaningful for me? It’s a  pretty simple question so many of us neglect to ask ourselves. With all the time and energy you put into your job, you should feel good about it. Will this new organization/position align with your values and passions?
  3. Am I going toward something great or running away from something I hate? An important question to ask yourself and explore -as to why you are considering this position and leaving your current organization. You want to make sure your leaving for the right reasons, and what I mean by that is you are going towards a great opportunity that will truly lead to growth and development rather than running away from something you don’t like. Are you taking the first opportunity that comes your way to get out of your current position? Even when times are tough, patience can pay off. Make sure you are leaving for the best opportunity not the most convenient one.

Check out the two articles below for more tips on managing your career path.

Ultimately, there is no “wrong choice” or “bad career move” – every decision we make and every experience we have contributes to our career and growth. We may have great experiences, and we may have shitty ones, but all of them contribute to who we are personally and professionally. Don’t over analyze and get caught up in titles and career ladders – pursue the work and positions that will be most meaningful to you and enjoy the journey.

“Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity.” – Oprah

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Embrace the day!

Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong
instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Confidence

Happy Friday!

It probably won’t surprise you much when I tell you that women tend to have less confidence than men. Are you shocked?! Probably not… but WHY is this?! Most of the research on this has indicated that women are commonly paralyzed by perfectionism and second guessing their decisions and actions. These behaviors cripple us and our ability to bring our self forward confidently. Men are almost always more confident than women, even when the women are equally or more talented. According to research, men typically applied for promotions when they met 60 percent of the required qualifications, while women only applied when they met 100 percent of them. Basically, women are most confident when they believe they are perfect – which is holding them back in more ways than they know.

Women tend to believe that if they work hard and do good work that they will be rewarded with promotions, raises, etc – so we don’t ask, we wait for it to come to us. This is grave mistake on our part – and one that our male counterparts are not making. You absolutely need to do good work and put in the effort and time but exuding confidence is equally important. If you’re confident, you are more likely to get your ideas heard and get more follow-through on them.

Confidence is belief in your abilities. It’s the feeling that you can rise to the occasion when the pressure is on. It not only fuels your ambition but encourages you to set stretch goals. It even has a powerful influence on the results you experience. As the great Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

So how do we build and improve our confidence?!

Confidence is an emotion and skill that we can managed and developed. Sure, it may come natural for some people but for most it takes experience, development and a little risk taking. It all starts in our mind – a lack of confidence is rooted in FEAR. Fear of being wrong, fear of failure, fear of letting people down, the list goes on. To build confidence we need to shift our mindset to accept failures and mistakes. When we can accept and own our mistakes we are more willing to put ourselves out there, try something new or speak up at the table.

We must also be confident with who we are and that means knowing what we value. Knowing your values and strengths shapes your life in more ways than I can begin to write about. One of the biggest examples is the impact it has in our decision making; when we know what our core values are, decision making becomes a lot easier and more efficient. Consider your values a compass for your life and every decision or action you make should be guided by them. Our confidence in the decisions we make is elevated when we are guided by our values – so know what yours are and use them.

Finally, stay positive! Negativity can be a confidence killer – don’t consume yourself with the “what ifs” and possible negative outcomes. Think positive and surround yourself with positive people, too. Learn to catch yourself when you get negative and quickly turn that shit around into a positive. A negative mind will never get you a positive life.

Those are just three quick tips from me but here are a few great articles I have read over the years about this very topic. They not only offer some great insights but helpful tips and strategies to build your confidence.

It the words of Demi Lovato – “What’s wrong with being confident (Ah ha)?

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Embrace the day!

Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong
instagram: @ciaturner

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Friday Fuel! Get Yo Money

Happy Friday!

It’s a beautiful day people, don’t waste it!

I hope this week has treated you all well and you are ready to kick ass today and close out the week on a productive and positive note. Today I want to share an article I came across on Facebook about the wage gap for men and women. Glamour did a super scientific study comparing the salary of men and women in similar positions (okay, not really super scientific but I liked their approach and there is some great stuff in this article). They brought in 12 women and men in similar jobs, with similar titles and ­levels of experience, to come clean about their earnings – the results were actually pretty shocking (well, maybe to some people…). Bottom line: of the 12 women and men who were compared, all but one women made less than their male counterparts. Some women had more experience, more advanced degrees and still, they were paid thousands of dollars less then the man.

This has been national topic of discussion for quite some time now, we are all well aware of the pay gap between men, women and minorities – the latest statistics are that women make $0.82 cents to the dollar that men make – for minority women it drops down to $0.66. {WTF!?!?}  Now, I know this number is highly debated, especially among political groups, but let’s put that aside and ignore the exact wage gap number and focus on the fact that the gap DOES exist. Regardless if its 82 cents or 97 cents – it shouldn’t be there at all. Any gap over time, no matter how small, can have serious impacts on a person’s finances over time.

As women, we are up against some external forces that are, to some extent out of our control, but there is plenty we can be doing on an individual basis to advocate for ourselves and get the money we deserve for the work we are doing. It starts with being knowledgeable about the wage gap and the issue at hand. EDUCATE YO SELF! Read this article (and others!) and understand what you’re up again.

Next, know YOUR WORTH. Do your research on the market value for your position. Don’t be afraid to ask other colleagues and friends in the field about their pay. Some people really frown upon this but I think it can give you some of the best information – whether it be the amount their paid or how they negotiated – learn from others. Use sites like Payscale to get a sense of the market value and use this data in negotiations.

Lastly, NEGOTIATE. A study in the Harvard Business Review shows that while women are 11 percent less likely to negotiate than men, when they choose to go for it, half the time they get a better offer! When we don’t ask for what we want or negotiate at all, we continue to perpetuate disproportionate pay rates between ourselves and our male colleagues. We all know that the guys are asking for more, so lets do the same! If you don’t ask, you’ll never know…

Glamour polled 300 women, 71 percent of the women who asked for a raise said they got it! ASK AWAY, but BE PREPARED. Going into a negotiation conversation needs to be thoughtful and well executed. Preparation on your end is essential – know what you want, the amount and why. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard so far was to share what have DONE for the organization – highlight what you do and how you have made a positive impact on the organization.

Here are three articles I have shared in the past but are some of the most helpful ones for navigating the negotiation waters.

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This Friday Fuel post won’t change the world and magically make the pay gap disappear – not much of what I am writing goes far beyond our small community of Friday Fuel readers – but as I have said in many posts before; it’s about taking personal responsibility for your own situation and making sure YOU are not one of the woman being sucker punched by bullshit gender barriers. My hope is that you will feel empowered and inspired to take control of your own situation and ask for what you want and deserve.

Have a personal story of negotiating or asking for equity in the workplace? I would LOVE to hear it, send me an E-mail (Cturner@fridayfuel.org) or comment on this blog post!

Chumlee’s weekly glamour shot – this sleepy head was no help to my writing this morning (but I still love him)!

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Embrace the day!

Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong
instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! You Are Enough

Happy Friday!

“We all spend our lives kicking the crap out of ourselves for not being this way or that way, not having this thing or that thing, not being like this person or that person.
For not living up to some standard we think applies across the board to all of us.
We all spend our lives trying to follow the same path, live by the same rules.
I think we believe that happiness lies in following the same list of rules.
In being more like everyone else.
That? Is wrong.
There is no list of rules.”
Shonda Rhimes, “Year of Yes”

You are enough. Do not let perfectionism and comparison steal your joy; be YOU and own it.

I’m still hung up on last week’s post and Oprah’s powerful insights. “Your life is fueled by your being and the being fuels the doing.” I read the quote above from Shonda Rhimes’ book, “The Year of Yes”, and I thought it tied in perfectly, so I had to share this week.

There are no set of rules on how to live your life and no set guideline to joy and fulfillment. Anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is full of sh*t. There is no right way to act, to talk, to be a parent, to be a friend, to be YOU. Screw rules, screw expectations and screw the idea of the “perfect” man or woman.  Stop putting pressure on yourself to be like everyone else and just be YOU.

I’m all fired up about this (can you tell?!) – the revolution that will happen in your mind and life when you let go of expectations, stop seeking approval and carve out your own journey in life – is indescribable.

See for yourself…start living YOUR own life.

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Embrace the day!

Christina
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