Friday Fuel! Abundance Mindset

Happy Friday!

It’s a great day to be alive!

I look around and I see an abundance. An abundance of people, information, material things and so on. We are in a unbelievable state of abundance that is amazing yet, it feels as though the conversations are always focused on people’s perceived scarcity – what they don’t have and what others do have.

Now more than ever we have SO much at our disposal yet people choose to focus on what they don’t have. I think this attitude comes from a deep subconscious desire for people to feel fulfilled. They look for fulfillment in ‘things’ and ‘stuff’ and never find it – and they won’t. We get into the mindset that the next ‘thing’, place or person will fulfill us and when it doesn’t, we shift our focus onto the next ‘thing’, place or person.

It makes sense why their is this perceived scarcity in our culture, because people are looking for fulfillment in all the wrong places and ways. It’s easy to get caught up in comparison mode and focus on all the things others have that you don’t. Instead of focusing on what everyone around you is doing and/or has, turn inward and appreciate all that you have in your life. Meaning and fulfillment come from within.

If you’re reading this right now, you’re probably breathing. Go ahead, check and take a nice long deep breathe. Now do it again….and one more time.

If you just took those 3 deep breathes, you have so much to be grateful for right now. The ability to breathe means you are ALIVE. No matter your circumstances, what you have or don’t have – you have life and that means you have the CHOICE everyday to show up, be grateful, love, be kind, be positive, do good, work hard. You are alive and you have a choice to focus on how to make the most of that life.

Focus your mind on all the good things in your life and all that you have; from the cup of coffee in the morning to the bed you sleep in, to the air you breathe in and out. Every day and every breath is a blessing. Gratitude is everything.

Embrace the day!
Christina
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Twitter: CTurner_Strong
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Friday Fuel! Stress Less

Happy Friday!

My wonderful husband shared this video with me a year or so ago and I absolutely love the message: how to be good at stress. I have always perceived stress as the enemy, attacking my mind and body. I am not sure about all of you but when I’m going through a stressful situation I feel my heart pounding, the anxiety kicks in, I feel physically exhausted and when it’s really bad, I get this wonderful twitch in my left eye. Good times…

The science of stress says that these reactions are actually not that bad for us. Wait, what?!? It feels pretty bad to me! Our physiological response to stress is one that our body learns and grows from. Research shows that when your body goes through a stressful situation the physiological and neurological responses develop our bodies in ways that boost our resiliency and ability to manage future stress. It’s amazing! In the video I shared above, Psychologist Kelly McGonigal says the key to not letting stress take you down is your mindset. If we view the physical and mental response to stress as our body rising to the challenge, then we are far more likely to reap the benefits of that experience.

Don’t let stress take you down and stay grounded these three things:
1. No problem is permanent.
2. Everything is solvable – you will figure it out!
3. The stress is making you stronger. Lean into it.

So, let’s embrace the day and all the stress that comes along with it! Choose to view your body’s stress response as the biology of courage. Move forward each day with the right frame of mind and don’t let stress take you out.

Embrace the day!

Christina

@ciaturner

@CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Protect Your Energy

Happy Friday!!

I talk a lot of about energy and how important our energy is. Our energy is how we show up in the world both physically and mentally. Our energy is a direct reflection of our passion, joy and what fuels us. Life is about finding and holding onto what energizes us; so when we figure it out, we must relentlessly protect it and cultivate it.
The quote below was a great reminder for me to prioritize energy care.

“To protect my energy…
…it is okay to change my mind.
…it is okay to cancel a commitment.
…it is okay to take a day off.
…it is okay to not answer that call.
…it is okay to not share myself.
…it is okay to do nothing.
…it is okay to be alone.
…it is okay to sleep in.
…it is okay to speak up.
…it is okay to move on.
…it is okay to let go.
…it is okay to change.”

Embrace the day!
Christina
Instagram: @ciaturner
Twitter: @cturner_strong

Friday Fuel! Self Leadership Finale

Happy Friday!

Today is the fourth and final part to this self-leadership series. This third and final key to self-leadership is a pretty big deal and is inspired by a quote I heard in a podcast last week:

“You can’t lead yourself by yourself.”

It’s simple; you can’t do it alone, ladies. To lead ourself we need good people around us. People we can trust, people who energize us and people who will be honest with us.

Self awareness and self reflection will only take us so far –  we also need those people in our lives to give us an external perspective, to call us out on our sh*t, and to love on us.

So, who are your people?!?

Leadership guru, Jim Rohn, says we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Whether we like it or not we are greatly influenced by the people in our lives and the ones we spend the most time with. The people we spend time with can influence how we feel, our self-esteem, the decisions we make and so much more.

Who are your five?

Hold onto the good people in your life and be a source of happiness, positivity and support for them like they are for you. Oh, and those people who are bringing you down. RUN! Figure out your exit strategy and spend way less time around them.

That’s a wrap to this four part fuel on self-leadership. I’ll end with this: Embrace who you are as a leader and dig-in to figure out what leadership means to YOU. Leadership starts with self-leadership; know your values, develop your self-awareness and surround yourself with good people so that you can be you with confidence and authenticity.

 

Embrace the day!
Christina
Insta: ciaturner
Twitter: CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Self Leadership Part 3

Happy Friday!

We are entering week three of this self leadership series and today I’m talking about key #2 to self leadership. Let’s recap…

We can’t lead others without leading our self first. Self leadership is knowing who you are and what you value and letting that drive how you lead others. The first key to self leadership is having clarity around what you VALUE. Great leaders know and lead with their values rather than their wants.

Today, we dive into the second key to self leadership: brutal honesty with yourself. In other words, self awareness. Self awareness is one of most valuable skills of a leader and goes hand in hand with key #1. Self awareness is the conscious knowledge of ones own feelings, motives and desires; it’s an ability to acknowledge our motives and how it might influence our decisions and actions. It’s acknowledgement of your strengths and weaknesses. Moreover it’s the power of self reflection and an ability to own your ego when it shows up and be brutally honest with yourself as to why you feel the way you do.

Self awareness involves deep personal honesty. It comes from asking and answering honest questions. It’s a skill that takes time and personal effort to work but it CAN be developed. Here are 3 ways you can work to become more self-aware:

  1. Meditate – pause and reflect!
  2. Write down your key plans and priorities – be honest about what you WANT and WHY.
  3. Ask a trusted friend for feedback

These are just a few quick tips to become more self-aware. Check out the articles below for more on self-awareness.

Start getting honest with yourself so that you can get honest with others.

Embrace the day!
Christina

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Twitter: CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Self-Leadership Part 2

Happy Friday!

 

It’s a great day for a great day! Last week kicked-off a 4-part rant on self-leadership. Today is part 2and dives into the first key to self-leadership!

Key #1 comin’ at ya!

As I mentioned last week, great leadership starts with self leadership. Our focus typically shifts to leading others or the external aspects of leadership, but it starts with you. To step up and lead others you must first lead yourself and be clear on who you areand what you value. We don’t need to be someone we’re not or mirror what our society says leadership “looks like” – establish your own leadership identity and do YOU.

With that said, the first, and most important key to self-leadership is knowing your values. (I know, I know, you have heard me say this a thousand times but I am going to keep hammering it home until you all know your personal values!). Your values are what FUEL you; they drive your actions in life and bring you energy.

You must have the ability to identify and reflect on what you stand for, what your values are, and what matters most to you. To lead yourself and others, you must be willing to look within yourself through regular self-reflection and strive for greater self-awareness.

Taking the time to deep dive into what you value will ultimately make you a better leader of yourself and others. As someone who has been through a few didn’t values discovery exercises, it helped me learn a lot about myself, what I value and how I want to lead. I can’t stress enough how impactful this can be for you – I actually think you are doing a disservice to yourself by not doing a values assessment during your lifetime. You will gain clarity around your passions and what you want in life. You will discover what motivates you and drives your actions. Why wouldn’t you want to know this?! Think about the possibilities for your life if you were more clear on what is most meaningful to you!

So, over the next week I implore you to make time for some self exploration and values development. To help kick that off I’ve given some self reflection resources below to help guide you through the process.

 

Get Started!
Resources for self exploration:

Answer these questions:
  1. What are your interests and hobbies?
  2. What motivates you in work/life?
  3. What makes you happy?
  4. What is most important to you?
Read these:

 

Embrace the day!

Christina
Insta: ciaturner
Twitter: CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Self Leadership

Happy Friday!

It’s a great day to be alive! 

We live in a culture that is deeply conflicted by this “idea” that women can lead. Women are taught to downplay femininity, or to soften a hard-charging style, or to try to strike a perfect balance between the two. The subtle gender bias that persists in the workplace and in our society disrupts a woman’s learning and self-exploration and subsequently their leadership identity. We become so focused on being liked and not coming off as “bossy” or “bitchy” that we waste our time and energy on fulfilling/correcting others perceptions rather than working to develop our authentic self and leadership identity.

I say all this because it leads to a conversation I want to start with you all about self-leadership; something we all have a tendency to overlook when we think about leadership and what it entails. Our focus typically shifts to leading others or the external aspects of leadership, but it starts with you.

This unconscious focus on the external is a big reason why women don’t go for the leading roles – we become consumed with the external expectations of us and strive to be a leader based on what society says that looks/acts like. Here’s an idea; stop trying to be someone else or what others want you to be as a leader and BE YOU. 

Great leadership starts with self-leadership. It starts with you.

With all that said – I am going to use the next three weeks of Friday Fuel to dig in on this topic and what I think the keys to self leadership are. My hope is that this conversation will fuel you to do some self exploration on who YOU are, so you can lead authentically and confidently.

Until next time, keep kicking ass, take time for yourself and embrace the day!

Christina
Insta: ciaturner
Twitter: CTurner_Strong
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