Friday Fuel! Be a little more selfish

Happy Friday!

Friends! I’ve missed you. I’ve missed this. Sorry for the long pause on Friday Fuel – life priorities shifted and Friday Fuel was put on the back burner. With that has come many learnings and a renewed sense of clarity on what brings me joy.

As life got busier and busier with all the things happening in my life, I had to make choices on where to invest my time and energy. We all have those seasons of life where there is major change or newness that we need to adjust to. It happens and when it does we shift our actions towards what needs to get done or where we are needed. Truth be told we probably shift our attention and actions to where others need or expect us. The first person we neglect to give time and attention to is our self.

Friday Fuel was/is a highlight for me – it is time for intentional reflection, learning and connection. I love it and it brings me joy to write it and then share with you. As life got busy and I got tired, I convinced myself that I didn’t have the time or energy to write Friday Fuel. In reality, continuing to make the time to write Friday Fuel would have helped me in all the chaos of life when I needed it most.

The learning here is that life will also have times of change, challenges and chaos but when those times come up we shouldn’t give up the things that bring us joy, center us and keep our mind right. Whatever that thing may be! For some it’s exercising in the morning, reading everyday, getting 8-hours of sleep, journaling, etc. Whatever that thing is that you do for yourself- do it. Always. 

When I reflect back, I wasn’t that busy. I could have made the time and said no to other things and made the choice to work on Friday Fuel. I didn’t commit to the habit.

So, while I can’t promise I’ll be able to pump these out every Friday, I’m committed to making the time work on Friday Fuel because I know it is good for my soul. So I hope you will make the time to do the things that energize YOU. Start by taking an inventory of your life and see what you have given up for yourself and then be intentional about incorporating it back into your life.

It’s possible. I promise.

“Don’t walk through this world looking for evidence you don’t belong because you will always find it. Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those in our hearts.”
– Brene Brown

Embrace the day!

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Christina
FridayFuel.org
Twitter: @CTurner_Strong
Instragram: @ciaturner

That’s my little guy over there who inspires me every damn day! >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

 

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Friday Fuel! Two-minute Mornings

Happy Friday!

Today I’m going to sell you on spending two minutes every morning on yourself. Two minutes of pure self reflection anfe133503-23ce-4a3a-baeb-c55d93d6476a.jpgd intention setting that will help you win the day.

Two minutes. 120 seconds. .01% of your day. Come on, you can commit .01% of your day!!

We’ll keep this simple. Here’s what you need:

  1. A piece of paper or open up a note on your phone.
  2. A pen
  3. A space and place you can be alone without interruption for two whole minutes. For moms and people with family – this might mean setting your alarm five minutes earlier to get some alone time. Or hiding out in the bathroom – we’ve all been there!

You’ve got your paper, pen and space of solitude now it’s time to write. Complete the four statements below:

Today I will let go of…

Today I am grateful for…

Today I will focus on…

I am…

This can take as little as two minutes but if you have the time, don’t rush it. Be reflective and intentional. These prompts engage you in personal reflection and will help you set your intention, focus and energy for the day. This is a small way of preparing your mindset for the day and being intentional about what you will focus on, what you have and who you are.

Our thoughts and words drive our actions so be intentional about how you start your day so that you can run the day and win the day. Give it a try…31bbc2c0-4d59-41a8-aa51-bc0f32b747b6.jpg

Embrace the day!
Christina
FridayFuel.org
Twitter: @CTurner_Strong
Instragram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Suffering is optional

Happy Friday!

It’s a great day to be alive!

January brought great lessons in perspective and attitude for me. Just one of those lessons came when we had a snow storm here in Kansas City a couple weeks ago. It took out power our for a few days. It’s a big city so it understandably took some time for the lines to get repaired and our power to come on. It was cold. We missed playoff football and the power surge took out a dozen of our favorite appliances – including my new coffee machine 😭

BUT we are alive, we are healthy AND the power was back on in a little over 48 hours! So, the reality – it was no big deal. We had an easy go of it in comparison to some other folks here in the city and in comparison to people who suffered major tragedy with some of the more recent natural disasters all over the globe! We are okay!

The snow storm experience (along with some other minor bumps in the road this month) put things in perspective for me on how we can better handle adversity or occasional inconveniences – we can always consider how things could be worse. In the case of the snow storm – we could have had a tree land on our car or house. We could have lost power for a month. We could have had an electrical fire from the power surge. It could have been worse, way worse and it wasn’t – we are okay!

Amidst the storm and chaos I found myself in moments of frustration and throwing little pity parties for myself. I checked myself by taking a step back and trying to gain some perspective and every time I did the quick fix was considering how much worse it could be. When I thought about all the things that could be going wrong on top of the current situation it quickly made me grateful for all that was going right! It’s a practice I’m continuing to grow into and something I think we all can learn to embrace.  I don’t say this to minimize your problems or whatever you’re going through, I say it to share a tool that you can use to overcome adversity and bad days. Simply reframing the problem and shifting your attitude from the negative to a positive can make all the difference in how you come out on the other end of things.

In the words of leadership guru, Cy Wakeman; “suffering is optional”.

Life is awesome and way too short to dwell on the negative.
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Embrace the day!
Christina
FridayFuel.org
Twitter: @CTurner_Strong
Instragram: @ciaturner

 

Must Read!​
A great read on how you can deliver bad news in a positive way! There is always some positive to every situation – it just depends on how you frame it!
How to Deliver Bad News in a Positive Way

Friday Fuel! Don’t Wait – Act Now!

Happy Friday!

And just like that it’s 2019!!! Can you believe it!?!?

2018 was a whirlwind – a wild and wonderful ride that literally feels like it happened as fast as I can blink my eyes. It’s been a great reminder for me that time is limited and one of our most precious commodities. Let’s not waste it.

If you have been following along with Friday Fuel for the last few years you know that I’m not a fan of the whole New Years resolution thing. The idea that we “start fresh” or can only set resolutions and goals at the start of a new year makes no sense to me. Life is a constant journey of growth and evolution – it happens every day of the year. So my thought is that the best time to make changes is when we have the realization that we need to do things differently and want to see different results – this is when we take action immediately! This can happen at any time of year so why restrict yourself to making change and developing your best self at the start of a new year?

So, no. I am not going to tell you to “set thoughtful, well planned  New Year’s resolutions” and “make 2019 all about becoming your best self”. That is what every day is for! What I will say is this; as you set out on your 2019 evolve your goals and habits as you evolve. When you are inspired to change something – act right away. Don’t wait until next year, the start of the month or even Monday morning to roll around – just go! Act on your motivation as soon as possible! There is no sense in delaying that which will make you better and your life better.

Do more of what makes you happy.

Cheers to 2019 and all the possibilities it holds for all of us!

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Embrace the day!
Christina

FridayFuel.org
Twitter: @CTurner_Strong
Instragram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! The World Needs More Positivity

Happy Friday!

It’s been a minute Friday Fuelers – I missed you! Thanks for being understanding of my very full life! Over the last few weeks there has been an ever present theme in my mind and life; gratitude. Life has been busy, messy, chaotic but most of all, joyful.
Last night I was getting some (very) last minute Christmas shopping done and had an encounter with a woman that I wanted to share. I was standing in line at the store with one woman in front of me. As she stepped up to the cashier to pay for her items the cashier kindly asked her “How are you doing tonight? Did you find everything you needed?” – the woman responded with “ugh, it’s fine”. The cashier proceeded to ask the woman ‘was there something wrong with your experience at our store?’. My ears perked up, I couldn’t help but want to listen to what prompted this women to respond the way she did. The woman said “No, not here. It’s my experience with everything else. Getting here was awful, the traffic is awful, parking is awful, the lines are awful, work this week has been awful.”

Debbie Downer in the flesh. I kid you not, she said ‘awful’ that many times!!
I get it, we all have bad days but that woman took her bad day and projected it onto the staff at the store and everyone else around her. (Not cool. Don’t be like that lady. I beg you!)

Meanwhile, what I was going on in my head was…”How amazing you have a car! how amazing you have someone in your life you love enough to buy those gifts for! How amazing you have legs to walk from the car to the store and stand in line! How amazing that you have a job that allows you to buy these gifts! Your life is pretty amazing.”

Okay, I digress. There is always something to be thankful for and there is always a positive side to everything. It’s all how you reframe the situation and we can choose to reframe it to the positive or we can choose to reframe it to the negative. We are in complete control of our attitude.

“Complaining is draining. Complaining only takes away energy from today and never solves the problems for tomorrow.”

– James Altucher

As we head into the New year, I implore you to kick the Debbie 00100lPORTRAIT_00100_BURST20181220100958204_COVER1.jpgDowners out of your life for once and for all and embrace a positive mindset. Life gets exponentially better when we seek out the good in every situation.

I choose positivity. Join me.

Embrace the day!
Christina
FridayFuel.org
Twitter: @CTurner_Strong
Instragram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Abundance Mindset

Happy Friday!

It’s a great day to be alive!

I look around and I see an abundance. An abundance of people, information, material things and so on. We are in a unbelievable state of abundance that is amazing yet, it feels as though the conversations are always focused on people’s perceived scarcity – what they don’t have and what others do have.

Now more than ever we have SO much at our disposal yet people choose to focus on what they don’t have. I think this attitude comes from a deep subconscious desire for people to feel fulfilled. They look for fulfillment in ‘things’ and ‘stuff’ and never find it – and they won’t. We get into the mindset that the next ‘thing’, place or person will fulfill us and when it doesn’t, we shift our focus onto the next ‘thing’, place or person.

It makes sense why their is this perceived scarcity in our culture, because people are looking for fulfillment in all the wrong places and ways. It’s easy to get caught up in comparison mode and focus on all the things others have that you don’t. Instead of focusing on what everyone around you is doing and/or has, turn inward and appreciate all that you have in your life. Meaning and fulfillment come from within.

If you’re reading this right now, you’re probably breathing. Go ahead, check and take a nice long deep breathe. Now do it again….and one more time.

If you just took those 3 deep breathes, you have so much to be grateful for right now. The ability to breathe means you are ALIVE. No matter your circumstances, what you have or don’t have – you have life and that means you have the CHOICE everyday to show up, be grateful, love, be kind, be positive, do good, work hard. You are alive and you have a choice to focus on how to make the most of that life.

Focus your mind on all the good things in your life and all that you have; from the cup of coffee in the morning to the bed you sleep in, to the air you breathe in and out. Every day and every breath is a blessing. Gratitude is everything.

Embrace the day!
Christina
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Twitter: CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Stress Less

Happy Friday!

My wonderful husband shared this video with me a year or so ago and I absolutely love the message: how to be good at stress. I have always perceived stress as the enemy, attacking my mind and body. I am not sure about all of you but when I’m going through a stressful situation I feel my heart pounding, the anxiety kicks in, I feel physically exhausted and when it’s really bad, I get this wonderful twitch in my left eye. Good times…

The science of stress says that these reactions are actually not that bad for us. Wait, what?!? It feels pretty bad to me! Our physiological response to stress is one that our body learns and grows from. Research shows that when your body goes through a stressful situation the physiological and neurological responses develop our bodies in ways that boost our resiliency and ability to manage future stress. It’s amazing! In the video I shared above, Psychologist Kelly McGonigal says the key to not letting stress take you down is your mindset. If we view the physical and mental response to stress as our body rising to the challenge, then we are far more likely to reap the benefits of that experience.

Don’t let stress take you down and stay grounded these three things:
1. No problem is permanent.
2. Everything is solvable – you will figure it out!
3. The stress is making you stronger. Lean into it.

So, let’s embrace the day and all the stress that comes along with it! Choose to view your body’s stress response as the biology of courage. Move forward each day with the right frame of mind and don’t let stress take you out.

Embrace the day!

Christina

@ciaturner

@CTurner_Strong