Friday Fuel! Don’t throw your gum on the floor.

Happy Friday!

I have this theory that for every piece of gum I throw on the ground, I will step in a piece of gum. I don’t have any scientific proof that this is a thing but I fully believe it to be true based on my experience. Needless to say, I don’t throw gum anywhere but the trash can. (Side note: as a dog owner I hold the same theory about not picking up your dog’s poop off the sidewalk!)You see, the universe has this funny way of giving you what you give it. It’s simple; if you put positive energy out, you will get it back. If you treat others with kindness and respect, you will receive the same in return. If you throw your gum on the ground (which is a crappy thing to do, by the way) you can guarantee that some day soon you will lift up your brand new kicks and there will be a giant wad of dirty gum stuck to it. 

I fully believe in karma. From the simplest act of throwing my gum on the ground to the way I treat others to the things I do when no one else is looking. It’s something you are fully in control of: it’s your attitude, your mindset and your actions.

Do you keep stepping in gum? Maybe you should look inward and see if what you’re receiving in life is due to what you’re putting out there. 


Embrace the day!

Christina

Instagram: @ciaturner and @friday_fuel

Twitter: @cturner_strong

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Friday Fuel! Pause. Breathe. You got this.

Gooooood Morning and Happy Friday!
Yesterday I had a moment; a moment where I nearly crashed and broke down from the feeling of being overwhelmed with work and new mom “stuff”. The universe sent me an angel in a phone call from a friend and colleague (❤️ Lisa). I picked up the phone and she must have instantly heard the stress in my voice. All I said was “hello” and her response was “how are you? No really, how are you doing?” I instantly brushed her off with a “I’m good, I’m good” in rapid succession. She heard right through that and said “can you just pause for me for a second?” I laughed her off and continued to tell her “I’m good”. She kindly but firmly said “no really, stop talking. Just pause for a moment. Pause and breathe.” I stopped talking and paused for 20 seconds or so and took a deep breathe. The tears started to well up in my eyes, I exhaled and said “thank you”. 
I hadn’t paused or taken a deep breathe in days. Literally. This was my first week back to work all in, full time and I am swamped. My friend’s kind words and gentle reminder to pause and breathe saved me. I must have done it ten more times yesterday.

So, I’m passing along the message to all of you. Pause. Breathe. You got this.
I hope it helps someone reading this, like it helped me. 

I went digging through my journal for good quotes and here are some of my favorites. Write them down, post them on your computer, make them your screen saver or wherever will allow you will to see them throughout the day.

“Inhale the good shit, exhale the bullshit. 

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.”

“It’s a precious privilege to be alive; to breathe, to think, to enjoy and to love.”

“You can do anything but not everything.”

“Everyday is a new beginning. Take a deep breathe and start again.”

If none of that works…how about a picture of a cute baby and a handsome dog!?!



Embrace the day!

Christina

Instagram: @ciaturner @friday_fuel

Twitter: @cturner_strong

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Friday Fuel! Attract People; Don’t Chase Them.

Happy Friday!

“Don’t waste your time chasing people. Attract them. The people who are meant to be in your life will gravitate towards you without hesitation.”

From birth to death so many of us will spend our lives seeking approval and acceptance from others. We so badly yearn to be liked by the people who surround us and the thought of not being liked can be devastating.

Why do we strive to be liked by everyone? Why do we care so much about what others think of us? I don’t know about you but I feel like I have wasted a lot of my energy on caring what others think…especially those who don’t really matter.

Nobody likes the feeling of rejection; so when we feel any sense of insecurity or doubt in our self we adjust who we are to be liked and socially accepted. We adjust who we are to the crowd we are talking to, the environment we are in and to each and every scenario that comes across our life. As we do that though, we slowly lose our identity and authenticity. As you put on a face and give a shit about what everyone else is thinking you neglect to think for yourself and love yourself for who you are.

Maybe that’s my/our problem; a lack of self love. If we don’t know and love who ; we will continue to be influenced by others and consumed by the need for their approval. It’s hard to develop meaningful relationships with people when we don’t have one with our self first.

As Oscar Wilde puts it – “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”

How do we learn to love ourselves and shift our mindset to be at peace with who we are rather than striving to be what everyone else wants us to be? Here’s three question to ask yourself when you find you are chasing someone’s approval and acceptance:

  1. Why do you care what this person thinks? Is it a friend, family member, colleague or random person in the Target parking lot – whatever the case; why do you care?!
  2. Will this person be in your life in 1, 5, 10, 20 years? Hint: if they won’t be around long; stop wasting your time.
  3. Can I be my REAL self around this person? If not, stop working so hard to make THEM happy and comfortable – do you and hang with the people who dig it!

Be yourself and be proud of what inspires you and brings you joy. The people who align with your values and men9faf4b45c8450b104e4ea8944b0d382d.jpegtality will gravitate towards you – so embrace them – you’ll be a lot happier in the long run.

Cheers to the weekend and cheers to the people in your life who appreciate and love you for who you are.

Embrace the day!

Christina

Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel
Twitter: CTurner_Strong
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Friday Fuel! So much goodness!

Happy Friday!

Consider this your Friday afternoon pick-me-up! Over the last two weeks I have come across soooo many good articles, videos and quotes that I am sharing with you today!

First, I heard a quote that has resonated with me on so many levels and it may just be my new favorite. The quote is this:

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If I am being 100% honest, this is currently my mantra for breast feeding, ha! This shits exhausting! My b-feeding struggles aside, this is 100% applicable to SO many other things in life. It’s a great reminder that when things get tough and you have a shitty day; that’s not the time to make a radical decision or give something up.

With that quote in mind, when times are tough I find it helpful to flood my mind with good vibes and positivity. One way I do that is reading articles/books and watching videos each day. Below are a few reads I came across over the last two weeks that have been inspiring and motivating – check ’em out!

For a dose of inspiration and all over good feelings, watch the video linked below! It’s so great… https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FespnW%2Fvideos%2F10155261516070734%2F&show_text=0&width=560

It wouldn’t be Friday Fuel without pictures of our Life Coach, Chumlee! He is lovin’ life and enjoying the summer!

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong
Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel

 

 

Friday Fuel! Turn Down the Negativity

Happy Friday!

Life is what you make it – I really believe that. Through the good times and bad times our attitude towards life and what comes at us truly does influence our experiences and journey. There is a lot of noise in the world these days and most of it is negative. It seems to be getting louder and louder every day, which makes it harder to for people to see the good in the world and stay positive.

It’s easy to join in on the complaining, the anger, the ranting and fear. Being positive can be hard, there’s no doubt about it – the negative voices out number the positive ones but that doesn’t mean you should join them.  Lets choose to make positivity louder and bring good vibes to the universe; fight the good fight and find the positive in every situation.

But, how???

How do we keep a positive mindset with all this negative hawks circling around us ready to attack? How do we turn down the volume of negativity and tune it out? Here’s a few things I do to remind myself to stay in the positive zone and not join in with the Negative Nancy’s of the world:

  1. Realize that nothing is permanent. This applies to the good times and the bad, but I find it incredibly reassuring when going through tough times. Time heals and nothing will last forever so don’t let an event, person, etc., suck any of the good vibes from your life. Not for a second. A good question to ask yourself; “will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years? 20 years?”
  2. Embrace the mentality that “It could always be worse”. When shit hits the fan and I’m bombared with issues that could take me down a negative path I try to think of something that could make the situation WORSE. Hear me out…I take the bad situation and in my mind I think of what could be worse. This reaction always helps me put things in perspective and realize I should be grateful that things are not even worse.
  3. Stop complaining. Complaining breeds negativity and is highly contagious. Cut the complaints and and cut the people out of your life who are constantly complaining. It doesn’t help the situation; it doesn’t change the situation and it doesn’t solve anything. Just don’t.
  4. Get into a positive frame of mind every day. A positive mindset is skill and something that we need to practice day-in and day-out so it becomes our instinctive reaction to things. Develop a routine or go-to activity that helps you get your attitude right for the day and puts you into a positive mindset. For me; my morning learning routine kick starts my positive mindset for the day. Learning new things through books, Podcasts or videos always inspires me and puts my mind in a positive place.

Life is full of choices and one of the most important choices of all is our attitude. You can focus on the negative and have a shitty attitude or you can choose to be positive and focus on all that is good in your life.

“A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.”

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong
Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel

 

Friday Fuel! Fall in love with being wrong

Happy Friday!

I hate being wrong. I think we all probably do. Being wrong can make us feel embarrassed, vulnerable and self conscious. It’s a big punch to our ego more than anything else – especially when we are wrong around certain people! (You know who I’m talking about!)

Being wrong isn’t the end of the world – much like a mistake or failure – it is a huge learning opportunity. I’m trying to “fall in love” with being wrong. What do I mean by that? I mean fully accepting myself and my mistake when I make them. Taking my wrong and turning it into a opportunity to learn. When we are wrong we have the chance to accept that and learn what is right. When we make a mistake we have the chance to fix it. This can only happen if we put our ego aside, own our mistakes and put in the work to learn what’s right.

We let our ego get in the way of us becoming a better version of ourselves all too often and when we are wrong, make mistakes or have failures – that is the time when our ego comes through the most. It blinds us from being open and seeing the opportunity to learn and grow. It takes self work and vulnerability to shift your mindset from avoidance of being wrong and/or making mistakes to falling in love with them. Those are the moments that will have the biggest impact on your life but you have to let them.

Here are three ways you can shift your mindset to embracing mistakes and falling in love with being wrong:

1. Adopt a growth mindset. This means fully believing that your ability to grow and learn is not finite, but a lifelong process. Every mistake I make; I learn and experience personal growth. Wholeheartedly believing this helps me put my ego aside.
2. Care less what people think. Our ego gets bruised and your defense mechanisms kick into high gear because we care what other people think of us. Most of the time we are overthinking and overestimating just how much others think about us or how they will respond to our mistakes. It’s simple – everyone is consumed by their own shit, they aren’t thinking about you as much as you think! ((It’s all in your head))
3. Get vulnerable. Vulnerability can be a death sentence for many of us – it means risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure. It’s our natural response to want to know everything and be certain (it’s our safe space). When we open ourselves up to being vulnerable great things can happen. Only once we embrace our own vulnerability can we truly accept and learn from being wrong, the mistakes we make and failures. (I smell a future Friday Fuel topic on this!!!)

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong
Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel

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Friday Fuel! Feel Good Fuel

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Happy Friday!

“We can always choose to perceive things differently. You can focus on what’s wrong in your life, or you can focus on what’s right.” – Marianna Wiliamson

Today’s Friday Fuel is another edition of “Feel Good Fuel”. I am sending loads of good vibes and positivity your way with a few of my favorite quotes, Chumlee glamour shots, reads and videos.  I hope this ignites your energy and fuels your day! Make the most of every moment and don’t let this day go to waste!

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How AWESOME is this little girl! I loved this so much I had to share!

Check out these good reads and videos to fuel your day!

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
instagram: @ciaturner

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