Friday Fuel! So much goodness!

Happy Friday!

Consider this your Friday afternoon pick-me-up! Over the last two weeks I have come across soooo many good articles, videos and quotes that I am sharing with you today!

First, I heard a quote that has resonated with me on so many levels and it may just be my new favorite. The quote is this:

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If I am being 100% honest, this is currently my mantra for breast feeding, ha! This shits exhausting! My b-feeding struggles aside, this is 100% applicable to SO many other things in life. It’s a great reminder that when things get tough and you have a shitty day; that’s not the time to make a radical decision or give something up.

With that quote in mind, when times are tough I find it helpful to flood my mind with good vibes and positivity. One way I do that is reading articles/books and watching videos each day. Below are a few reads I came across over the last two weeks that have been inspiring and motivating – check ’em out!

For a dose of inspiration and all over good feelings, watch the video linked below! It’s so great… https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FespnW%2Fvideos%2F10155261516070734%2F&show_text=0&width=560

It wouldn’t be Friday Fuel without pictures of our Life Coach, Chumlee! He is lovin’ life and enjoying the summer!

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong
Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel

 

 

Friday Fuel! Turn Down the Negativity

Happy Friday!

Life is what you make it – I really believe that. Through the good times and bad times our attitude towards life and what comes at us truly does influence our experiences and journey. There is a lot of noise in the world these days and most of it is negative. It seems to be getting louder and louder every day, which makes it harder to for people to see the good in the world and stay positive.

It’s easy to join in on the complaining, the anger, the ranting and fear. Being positive can be hard, there’s no doubt about it – the negative voices out number the positive ones but that doesn’t mean you should join them.  Lets choose to make positivity louder and bring good vibes to the universe; fight the good fight and find the positive in every situation.

But, how???

How do we keep a positive mindset with all this negative hawks circling around us ready to attack? How do we turn down the volume of negativity and tune it out? Here’s a few things I do to remind myself to stay in the positive zone and not join in with the Negative Nancy’s of the world:

  1. Realize that nothing is permanent. This applies to the good times and the bad, but I find it incredibly reassuring when going through tough times. Time heals and nothing will last forever so don’t let an event, person, etc., suck any of the good vibes from your life. Not for a second. A good question to ask yourself; “will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years? 20 years?”
  2. Embrace the mentality that “It could always be worse”. When shit hits the fan and I’m bombared with issues that could take me down a negative path I try to think of something that could make the situation WORSE. Hear me out…I take the bad situation and in my mind I think of what could be worse. This reaction always helps me put things in perspective and realize I should be grateful that things are not even worse.
  3. Stop complaining. Complaining breeds negativity and is highly contagious. Cut the complaints and and cut the people out of your life who are constantly complaining. It doesn’t help the situation; it doesn’t change the situation and it doesn’t solve anything. Just don’t.
  4. Get into a positive frame of mind every day. A positive mindset is skill and something that we need to practice day-in and day-out so it becomes our instinctive reaction to things. Develop a routine or go-to activity that helps you get your attitude right for the day and puts you into a positive mindset. For me; my morning learning routine kick starts my positive mindset for the day. Learning new things through books, Podcasts or videos always inspires me and puts my mind in a positive place.

Life is full of choices and one of the most important choices of all is our attitude. You can focus on the negative and have a shitty attitude or you can choose to be positive and focus on all that is good in your life.

“A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.”

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong
Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel

 

Friday Fuel! Fall in love with being wrong

Happy Friday!

I hate being wrong. I think we all probably do. Being wrong can make us feel embarrassed, vulnerable and self conscious. It’s a big punch to our ego more than anything else – especially when we are wrong around certain people! (You know who I’m talking about!)

Being wrong isn’t the end of the world – much like a mistake or failure – it is a huge learning opportunity. I’m trying to “fall in love” with being wrong. What do I mean by that? I mean fully accepting myself and my mistake when I make them. Taking my wrong and turning it into a opportunity to learn. When we are wrong we have the chance to accept that and learn what is right. When we make a mistake we have the chance to fix it. This can only happen if we put our ego aside, own our mistakes and put in the work to learn what’s right.

We let our ego get in the way of us becoming a better version of ourselves all too often and when we are wrong, make mistakes or have failures – that is the time when our ego comes through the most. It blinds us from being open and seeing the opportunity to learn and grow. It takes self work and vulnerability to shift your mindset from avoidance of being wrong and/or making mistakes to falling in love with them. Those are the moments that will have the biggest impact on your life but you have to let them.

Here are three ways you can shift your mindset to embracing mistakes and falling in love with being wrong:

1. Adopt a growth mindset. This means fully believing that your ability to grow and learn is not finite, but a lifelong process. Every mistake I make; I learn and experience personal growth. Wholeheartedly believing this helps me put my ego aside.
2. Care less what people think. Our ego gets bruised and your defense mechanisms kick into high gear because we care what other people think of us. Most of the time we are overthinking and overestimating just how much others think about us or how they will respond to our mistakes. It’s simple – everyone is consumed by their own shit, they aren’t thinking about you as much as you think! ((It’s all in your head))
3. Get vulnerable. Vulnerability can be a death sentence for many of us – it means risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure. It’s our natural response to want to know everything and be certain (it’s our safe space). When we open ourselves up to being vulnerable great things can happen. Only once we embrace our own vulnerability can we truly accept and learn from being wrong, the mistakes we make and failures. (I smell a future Friday Fuel topic on this!!!)

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong
Instagram: @ciaturner & @Friday_Fuel

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Friday Fuel! Feel Good Fuel

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Happy Friday!

“We can always choose to perceive things differently. You can focus on what’s wrong in your life, or you can focus on what’s right.” – Marianna Wiliamson

Today’s Friday Fuel is another edition of “Feel Good Fuel”. I am sending loads of good vibes and positivity your way with a few of my favorite quotes, Chumlee glamour shots, reads and videos.  I hope this ignites your energy and fuels your day! Make the most of every moment and don’t let this day go to waste!

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How AWESOME is this little girl! I loved this so much I had to share!

Check out these good reads and videos to fuel your day!

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Embrace the day!
Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
instagram: @ciaturner

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Friday Fuel! Send the Elevator Back Down

Happy Friday!

Cheers to making it to Friday! The long weekend is ahead of us so I am sending along some Feel Good Fuel to kick things off  with some good vibes!

I couple months ago a friend shared an article with me from Success.com and I’ve been waiting for the right time to share on Friday Fuel. Today is the day! It’s incredibly timely with the graduation season upon us and lots of young people kicking off their adult journey. The article is short and simple so click on the link and take 60 seconds of your life to read it! It’s worth it!

21 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was 21.

I couldn’t agree more with the advice this writer gives and wish it was shared with me at the age of 21. Even today as a 30-year old I find it incredibly encouraging and applicable! With that in mind, I ask that you think about a younger women you may know that could use this advice and pass it along to them. As you will read, advice #17 is “send the elevator back down” – help lift other women up, share with them and be a mentor. I think we are at a critical time in our world that we need to be supporting other women and lifting one another up instead of stepping over one another in competition. I am the person I am today and I have had many opportunities in my life because of other women “sending the elevator back down” and extending a hand to help me.

“Empowered women, empower women.”

Pass today’s fuel or the article on to another woman! Think about ways in which you can support them and lift others as you rise. If you’re that woman who needs some help, ASK! Don’t be ashamed or afraid to ask another woman for help, support, advice, etc. I guarantee they will be happy to help!

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Embrace the day!
Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
Instagram: @ciaturner

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Friday Fuel! Be Nice to Yourself

Happy Friday!

A few weeks ago I was standing in the kitchen with my husband and started to complain about my body and how “gross I looked and felt”. I was hating on myself for the weight I was gaining in undesirable places during my first pregnancy. After a couple of minutes of listening to my ridiculous body shaming rant, my husband cut me off and said “will you just be nice to yourself?”. He called me out on my negativity and body shaming in the nicest way and I love him for that. It made me realize I do this all too often and my husband is the one stuck listening too it. How annoying is that! Sorry Andrew!

He was right – I was being so hard on myself and judging my body through one of the most amazing experiences of my life – pregnancy. Its been weeks since we had this interaction in the kitchen but it’s continued to stay on my mind and every time I body shame myself in my own mind I hear his words – “be nice to yourself”.

I hear women make negative comments about their bodies all too often. We are so hard on ourselves and have such unrealistic expectations about how we should look throughout every stage of our life. We constantly compare ourselves to others and create these ideas of what we should look like in our mind.

“Comparison is the thief of joy”

Our perfectionist tendencies (yes, ladies we all have them!) drives us to compare ourselves to other women and strive to look and be like anyone but ourselves. Not only is our constant criticism of our bodies bad for our own happiness and well-being; it feeds into our society’s disturbing attitude that a woman’s worth is directly related to her physical appearance.

Bottom line: CUT THAT SH*T OUT AND SHOW YOURSELF SOME LOVE!

We need to be kind to ourselves and one another. Stop body shaming yourself and start calling out other women when they do it too. Extend empathy and good vibes towards yourself and other women instead of judging and criticizing.

How about we compliment ourselves and one another instead of venting about how much we hate every little imperfection we have? How about we stop trying to be like someone else and focus on being our best self? How about we invest our energy into our health instead of a number on the scale? How about we exercise to be strong not skinny?

You’re human. You’re beautiful. You’re a kick ass woman! Love yourself!

Here are a few reads and videos I found that empower women to be kind to themselves and love their bodies. Check ’em out!

“Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love.”

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Chumlee doesn’t judge himself or others – he is the best kind of friend! Thanks to my hubster, Andrew, for this week’s Chumlee glamour shot. Check out his photography on Flickr!

Embrace the day!

Christina
Twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
Instagram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! The Secret to a Meaningful Career

Happy Friday!

As a higher education professional, the end of the academic year is always bittersweet. I am feeling relieved to have completed another great work year and made it out alive but as the senior students finish up their finals and prepare to move on from this college, I have mixed emotions.  It’s an exciting time for these seniors to be finishing up their college experience and now they are off into the “real world” wide-eyed and excited for the next phase of their life. As I say “see you later” to the students I am close with, I find myself saying and writing the same message over and over again…“pursue your passions and embrace the day”.  I want so badly for these young professionals to truly do what they love and bravely seize opportunities that will get them closer to a meaningful career and life. It something I hope all of us can find.

Life has taught me that there is no final destination or culminating career move – it’s a journey from start to end. It’s constantly evolving, changing directions and taking us places we never expected. I frequently hear my students say “I don’t know what I want to do when I ‘grow’ up” and I always laugh and respond with “me either!” When we are young adults, like the upcoming class of 2017, we feel we need to know what we want to do and be able to articulate the position, title and our professional aspirations to anyone that asks. I thought I needed to know exactly what I wanted to do and where I wanted to do it at the ripe age of 21. The truth is; we don’t. We don’t need to know as young graduates and we don’t need to know as mid-career professionals. Wherever you are in your career – be all there – and don’t stress about what’s next. Don’t get caught up in titles, status or make career moves to impress other people. Make career decisions based on your passions, values and strengths. This is the secret to a meaningful career.

Today, as a 30-year old woman, my career goals have shifted from wanting to be a “police women” at the age of 5 to a “professional NBA basketball athlete” for most of my adolescent years to a “tenured college professor” upon completing my undergraduate degree and in most recent years a “college athletic director”. Quite the spectrum of career aspirations over 30 years, ha!  Today, my attitude and mindset has shifted quite a bit. If you asked me “what’s next?” or “whats your career aspirations” – I don’t have a position or title in mind but rather my goal is to “work for an organization that aligns with my values and passions.” My career journey has become less about positions, titles and status and more about pursuing meaningful work that gives me purpose, energy and joy. 

So, to the class of 2017 and the Friday Fuel community – no matter where you are in your career and life; it’s never to early or too late to explore your values and passions and pursue the opportunities that align with both of these.  Figure out what matters to you, what you love to do and what gives you purpose, energy and joy. Life comes at us in unexpected ways and you never know where it will take you but knowing what you value and are most passionate about will always take you in the right direction.

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Pursue your passions and embrace the day!

Christina
twitter: @cturner_strong & @Friday_Fuel
instagram: @ciaturner