Friday Fuel! Don’t Wait – Act Now!

Happy Friday!

And just like that it’s 2019!!! Can you believe it!?!?

2018 was a whirlwind – a wild and wonderful ride that literally feels like it happened as fast as I can blink my eyes. It’s been a great reminder for me that time is limited and one of our most precious commodities. Let’s not waste it.

If you have been following along with Friday Fuel for the last few years you know that I’m not a fan of the whole New Years resolution thing. The idea that we “start fresh” or can only set resolutions and goals at the start of a new year makes no sense to me. Life is a constant journey of growth and evolution – it happens every day of the year. So my thought is that the best time to make changes is when we have the realization that we need to do things differently and want to see different results – this is when we take action immediately! This can happen at any time of year so why restrict yourself to making change and developing your best self at the start of a new year?

So, no. I am not going to tell you to “set thoughtful, well planned  New Year’s resolutions” and “make 2019 all about becoming your best self”. That is what every day is for! What I will say is this; as you set out on your 2019 evolve your goals and habits as you evolve. When you are inspired to change something – act right away. Don’t wait until next year, the start of the month or even Monday morning to roll around – just go! Act on your motivation as soon as possible! There is no sense in delaying that which will make you better and your life better.

Do more of what makes you happy.

Cheers to 2019 and all the possibilities it holds for all of us!

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Embrace the day!
Christina

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Friday Fuel! The World Needs More Positivity

Happy Friday!

It’s been a minute Friday Fuelers – I missed you! Thanks for being understanding of my very full life! Over the last few weeks there has been an ever present theme in my mind and life; gratitude. Life has been busy, messy, chaotic but most of all, joyful.
Last night I was getting some (very) last minute Christmas shopping done and had an encounter with a woman that I wanted to share. I was standing in line at the store with one woman in front of me. As she stepped up to the cashier to pay for her items the cashier kindly asked her “How are you doing tonight? Did you find everything you needed?” – the woman responded with “ugh, it’s fine”. The cashier proceeded to ask the woman ‘was there something wrong with your experience at our store?’. My ears perked up, I couldn’t help but want to listen to what prompted this women to respond the way she did. The woman said “No, not here. It’s my experience with everything else. Getting here was awful, the traffic is awful, parking is awful, the lines are awful, work this week has been awful.”

Debbie Downer in the flesh. I kid you not, she said ‘awful’ that many times!!
I get it, we all have bad days but that woman took her bad day and projected it onto the staff at the store and everyone else around her. (Not cool. Don’t be like that lady. I beg you!)

Meanwhile, what I was going on in my head was…”How amazing you have a car! how amazing you have someone in your life you love enough to buy those gifts for! How amazing you have legs to walk from the car to the store and stand in line! How amazing that you have a job that allows you to buy these gifts! Your life is pretty amazing.”

Okay, I digress. There is always something to be thankful for and there is always a positive side to everything. It’s all how you reframe the situation and we can choose to reframe it to the positive or we can choose to reframe it to the negative. We are in complete control of our attitude.

“Complaining is draining. Complaining only takes away energy from today and never solves the problems for tomorrow.”

– James Altucher

As we head into the New year, I implore you to kick the Debbie 00100lPORTRAIT_00100_BURST20181220100958204_COVER1.jpgDowners out of your life for once and for all and embrace a positive mindset. Life gets exponentially better when we seek out the good in every situation.

I choose positivity. Join me.

Embrace the day!
Christina
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Twitter: @CTurner_Strong
Instragram: @ciaturner

Friday Fuel! Abundance Mindset

Happy Friday!

It’s a great day to be alive!

I look around and I see an abundance. An abundance of people, information, material things and so on. We are in a unbelievable state of abundance that is amazing yet, it feels as though the conversations are always focused on people’s perceived scarcity – what they don’t have and what others do have.

Now more than ever we have SO much at our disposal yet people choose to focus on what they don’t have. I think this attitude comes from a deep subconscious desire for people to feel fulfilled. They look for fulfillment in ‘things’ and ‘stuff’ and never find it – and they won’t. We get into the mindset that the next ‘thing’, place or person will fulfill us and when it doesn’t, we shift our focus onto the next ‘thing’, place or person.

It makes sense why their is this perceived scarcity in our culture, because people are looking for fulfillment in all the wrong places and ways. It’s easy to get caught up in comparison mode and focus on all the things others have that you don’t. Instead of focusing on what everyone around you is doing and/or has, turn inward and appreciate all that you have in your life. Meaning and fulfillment come from within.

If you’re reading this right now, you’re probably breathing. Go ahead, check and take a nice long deep breathe. Now do it again….and one more time.

If you just took those 3 deep breathes, you have so much to be grateful for right now. The ability to breathe means you are ALIVE. No matter your circumstances, what you have or don’t have – you have life and that means you have the CHOICE everyday to show up, be grateful, love, be kind, be positive, do good, work hard. You are alive and you have a choice to focus on how to make the most of that life.

Focus your mind on all the good things in your life and all that you have; from the cup of coffee in the morning to the bed you sleep in, to the air you breathe in and out. Every day and every breath is a blessing. Gratitude is everything.

Embrace the day!
Christina
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Twitter: CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Stress Less

Happy Friday!

My wonderful husband shared this video with me a year or so ago and I absolutely love the message: how to be good at stress. I have always perceived stress as the enemy, attacking my mind and body. I am not sure about all of you but when I’m going through a stressful situation I feel my heart pounding, the anxiety kicks in, I feel physically exhausted and when it’s really bad, I get this wonderful twitch in my left eye. Good times…

The science of stress says that these reactions are actually not that bad for us. Wait, what?!? It feels pretty bad to me! Our physiological response to stress is one that our body learns and grows from. Research shows that when your body goes through a stressful situation the physiological and neurological responses develop our bodies in ways that boost our resiliency and ability to manage future stress. It’s amazing! In the video I shared above, Psychologist Kelly McGonigal says the key to not letting stress take you down is your mindset. If we view the physical and mental response to stress as our body rising to the challenge, then we are far more likely to reap the benefits of that experience.

Don’t let stress take you down and stay grounded these three things:
1. No problem is permanent.
2. Everything is solvable – you will figure it out!
3. The stress is making you stronger. Lean into it.

So, let’s embrace the day and all the stress that comes along with it! Choose to view your body’s stress response as the biology of courage. Move forward each day with the right frame of mind and don’t let stress take you out.

Embrace the day!

Christina

@ciaturner

@CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Protect Your Energy

Happy Friday!!

I talk a lot of about energy and how important our energy is. Our energy is how we show up in the world both physically and mentally. Our energy is a direct reflection of our passion, joy and what fuels us. Life is about finding and holding onto what energizes us; so when we figure it out, we must relentlessly protect it and cultivate it.
The quote below was a great reminder for me to prioritize energy care.

“To protect my energy…
…it is okay to change my mind.
…it is okay to cancel a commitment.
…it is okay to take a day off.
…it is okay to not answer that call.
…it is okay to not share myself.
…it is okay to do nothing.
…it is okay to be alone.
…it is okay to sleep in.
…it is okay to speak up.
…it is okay to move on.
…it is okay to let go.
…it is okay to change.”

Embrace the day!
Christina
Instagram: @ciaturner
Twitter: @cturner_strong

Friday Fuel! Self Leadership Finale

Happy Friday!

Today is the fourth and final part to this self-leadership series. This third and final key to self-leadership is a pretty big deal and is inspired by a quote I heard in a podcast last week:

“You can’t lead yourself by yourself.”

It’s simple; you can’t do it alone, ladies. To lead ourself we need good people around us. People we can trust, people who energize us and people who will be honest with us.

Self awareness and self reflection will only take us so far –  we also need those people in our lives to give us an external perspective, to call us out on our sh*t, and to love on us.

So, who are your people?!?

Leadership guru, Jim Rohn, says we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Whether we like it or not we are greatly influenced by the people in our lives and the ones we spend the most time with. The people we spend time with can influence how we feel, our self-esteem, the decisions we make and so much more.

Who are your five?

Hold onto the good people in your life and be a source of happiness, positivity and support for them like they are for you. Oh, and those people who are bringing you down. RUN! Figure out your exit strategy and spend way less time around them.

That’s a wrap to this four part fuel on self-leadership. I’ll end with this: Embrace who you are as a leader and dig-in to figure out what leadership means to YOU. Leadership starts with self-leadership; know your values, develop your self-awareness and surround yourself with good people so that you can be you with confidence and authenticity.

 

Embrace the day!
Christina
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Twitter: CTurner_Strong

Friday Fuel! Self Leadership Part 3

Happy Friday!

We are entering week three of this self leadership series and today I’m talking about key #2 to self leadership. Let’s recap…

We can’t lead others without leading our self first. Self leadership is knowing who you are and what you value and letting that drive how you lead others. The first key to self leadership is having clarity around what you VALUE. Great leaders know and lead with their values rather than their wants.

Today, we dive into the second key to self leadership: brutal honesty with yourself. In other words, self awareness. Self awareness is one of most valuable skills of a leader and goes hand in hand with key #1. Self awareness is the conscious knowledge of ones own feelings, motives and desires; it’s an ability to acknowledge our motives and how it might influence our decisions and actions. It’s acknowledgement of your strengths and weaknesses. Moreover it’s the power of self reflection and an ability to own your ego when it shows up and be brutally honest with yourself as to why you feel the way you do.

Self awareness involves deep personal honesty. It comes from asking and answering honest questions. It’s a skill that takes time and personal effort to work but it CAN be developed. Here are 3 ways you can work to become more self-aware:

  1. Meditate – pause and reflect!
  2. Write down your key plans and priorities – be honest about what you WANT and WHY.
  3. Ask a trusted friend for feedback

These are just a few quick tips to become more self-aware. Check out the articles below for more on self-awareness.

Start getting honest with yourself so that you can get honest with others.

Embrace the day!
Christina

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Twitter: CTurner_Strong