January 1, 2020
Happy New Year!
It’s not Friday but it’s a good a day as any to send you good vibes and well wishes as we kick-off 2020!
You may be thinking I am sending you a message about “New Year’s resolutions”, “goal setting”, “becoming a better YOU in 2020″…well I’m not. For those of you reading Friday Fuel over the years – you know that’s not my thing. The idea that we “start fresh” or can only set resolutions and goals at the start of a new year makes no sense to me. Life is a constant journey of growth and evolution – it happens year-round. The best time to make change is when we realize we need to do things differently if we want to see different results. This can happen at any time of year so why restrict yourself to making change and developing your best self only at the start of a new year? So, no, I am not going to tell you to “set thoughtful new year’s resolutions” and “make 2020 all about becoming your best self”. That’s what every day is for!
The reality, however, is that most of you have already got your New Year’s resolutions planned out and ready to go for today so the one thing I will tell you is this:
do more of what makes you happy.
We all love to set goals and adopt lifestyle habits based on what everyone else is doing at that time. We follow the crowd, latest trends and do what is socially acceptable rather than what truly brings us joy and personal well-being. Are you involved in an activity, group or job that you really don’t love? You have that book club meet up every other Wednesday night but you secretly dread going – then don’t. You wake up every morning and hate going to work for the next 8+ hours? Then do something about it – find another job. Can’t stand that work colleague down the hall who is miserable – then stay away! Training to run a marathon but you hate running? Then change it up – find a workout routine that you enjoy!
It’s simple…stop wasting your time with things and people that don’t bring you happiness. Respectfully decline, quit, or move on – everything will be okay if you say “no”, I promise! Life is too short and too precious to keep doing the things that don’t make you happy and/or surrounding yourself with people who don’t bring you joy.
So before you deep dive into 2020 resolutions try this: take a inventory of everything and everyone you are involved with or doing. Be honest with yourself and which of those things don’t you love doing? Then, make a list of things you enjoy or make you happy. Cut the things out that don’t bring you joy and add more of the things that do.
Cheers to 2020 and all the possibilities it holds for all of us!
Embrace the day!