“You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are—and you just might become the very best version of yourself.” – S. Sandberg
Today I am cheating, I am updating and re-sharing an old post that I think is incredibly valuable and important. I wrote this almost a year ago and this week I felt like I need to post it again. The power of resilience is a very real thing – our ability to overcome, bounce back and move forward can shape our lives in more ways than one.
Life is a roller coaster ride of events, emotions and experiences. Every experience we go through – both good and bad – shapes our attitude and steers our actions. Sheryl Sandberg’s message was powerfully true during her 2016 UC Berkley Commencement speech when she told graduates that when tragedy or adversity strikes we all have the ability to get through absolutely ANYTHING.
Sh*t happens. It’s part of life. Overcoming that sh*t and becoming a better person because of it is the only option to me.
When writing on this topic almost a year ago, it became glaringly obvious to me that resilience is a skill, not a trait. It evolves over time with experience and the development of an intentional attitude towards adversity. One of the most impactful things I read was in this New Yorker article: “Frame adversity as a challenge, and you become more flexible and able to deal with it, move on, learn from it, and grow. Focus on it, frame it as a threat, and a potentially traumatic event becomes an enduring problem; you become more inflexible, and more likely to be negatively affected.”
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy – our attitude and actions in response to a stressful event can shift the trajectory of our life. So, find the positive even during times of struggle and know that you are becoming a better version of you during your toughest times.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” – C. Jung
Embrace the day!
instagram: @ciaturner and @friday_fuel