It’s a beautiful day – go ahead and make the most of it!
I was catching up with one of the favorite people last week over the phone (shout out to LB – my southern sister!). We got into some great conversation about negative self-talk and complaining and both agreed it’s pointless and poisonous. We all have one of those people in our life who complains about anything and everything. No matter what the situation is, they find something to complain about. I think we can all agree, we don’t want to be that person…
Shortly after catching up with my friend I noticed I was complaining about something…Damn it! I was being that person! It made me wonder why does our brain go to that place? What is the point of complaining? Why do we do it? It is literally no help to the situation. It doesn’t solve the problem or change what happened; it’s pointless.
Life has it’s challenging and just plain sh*tty moments, but our response in those situations makes all the difference in how we will come out on the other end. Shifting our mindset from seeing barriers, obstacles and bad luck to opportunities is critical to our happiness and success. You may think complaining isn’t that big of a deal – everyone needs those moments to vent but too much of that is truly a BAD thing for our well-being. According to this article by Travis Bradberry, “Repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.”
Yikes! The thought that we can rewire our brain to be more negative and revert to that state is scary! I don’t know about you but that makes me want to think twice before complaining ever again…
One of my favorite Friday Fuel blogs from last year was The 90% Rule. It’s a great reminder about the importance of our attitude and response to whatever comes at us in our life.
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Staying positive can be challenging at times but you can train your brain to be positive. Fill your brain with the tools to revert to positivity and embrace an attitude of resilience. Here are two more articles I really like about a positive mindset…
- The Mentality of a Successful Career
Our mindset is such a powerful part of who we are, our presence, our outlook and how we live our life. A negative mind will never get you a positive life, so don’t go there – cut the complaints and re-frame the situation and your thoughts to see the positive.
Chumlee’s weekly glamour shot! Enjoy! Photo cred to my amazing hubster, Andrew Turner. Check out more of his pics on Flickr!
Embrace the day!