In college, I was a member of the women’s basketball team for four-years. I was a point guard, which means I was typically the one handling the ball and directing the plays. My freshmen year on the team I made a lot of mistakes on the court -missed easy lay-ups, turned over the ball, committed dumb fouls…when this happened I would get down on myself, get frustrated and lose confidence. I would dwell on the mistake; which only led me to play worse.
My coach had a phrase she would yell at me from the bench: “MOVE ON, AMATO!”
“Move on!” I still hear her voice in my head today. At the time, I didn’t realize just how important that phrase was and that it would teach me so much more outside of the game. Move on. There is a lot of game left to be played in life and dwelling on the past or the negative will not get you the end result you truly want – fulfillment, happiness and contentment.
I learned a lot from my time as a student-athlete but this was one of the most valuable lessons I took away from my coach. Don’t dwell, move on. Whether I turned over the ball or knocked down a three-pointer – that moment has happened, it has passed and I need to move forward with the game. The clock doesn’t stop, the play continues and the game goes on – this is a perfect analogy for life. Time continues to pass and all we can do is move on with it and focus on the present moment and the opportunities of the future.
“Moving on” is easier said than done – if you asked my coach, she would probably say it took me all four years of college to learn to “move on”. Its hard not to dwell when things go badly or upset us. “Moving on” means having the mindset to not dwell on the negative but instead look for the positive and focus on the opportunities in front of us.
Wednesday morning was a hard day. My body was heavy; my heart ached. It wasn’t about political agendas for me – it was about making a statement as a united country that we will not stand for, or support, a person who exudes so much hatred and divisiveness. On Wednesday, I was angry for the first time in a long time. I was fearful for our country; for people I know and love and for the people I don’t know but are, and will be, negatively impacted by the election results.
For me, the election results were a low point in my life. My mood and mindset were so dark and negative – it was a shitty day that was only made shittier by my mindset. Through it all, there was a voice in my head and that voice was my coach saying “MOVE ON!”. Regardless of the results life keeps moving forward and continues on. I/We need to keep moving forward and look for the opportunities in front of us. On Wednesday I was sad and angry; today I am fired up and ready to keep fighting the good fight for equity, inclusion and social justice.
Like many other times in my life, things did not go the way I thought or hoped. And that is okay. Like in the past, life will go on. The game has only just begun and I am done being angry, sad and fearful and shifting my energy towards the future and my personal role in making tomorrow better.
Never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it. – HRC
Move on and Embrace the day!
Photo cred to my hubster Andrew.
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